Hal Lublin on March 3rd, 2010

I’ve written a few posts about Facebook etiquette, mostly about application ettiquette, and I think there’s a point I missed that I wanted to touch on. I know I come down pretty hard on people whose news feed is made up almost entirely of apps, quizzes and games, but the reality is that for some people, it’s the reason they enjoy Facebook in the first place. Keeping that in mind, some people like to share that experience with friends. That’s fine too. I ONLY ask that you put a MOMENT of thought and pay attention to WHO you’re inviting.

You see, Facebook doesn’t just randomly invite 20 of your friends to “Hugs” or “SuperPoke.” YOU do that. Randomly. If you were having a game night at your house, would you just invite the first 20 people in your address book, or would you look through your options and pick the people who:

  1. 1. Share your interest in game nights; and
  2. 2. Are people you would enjoy playing with?

My guess is you don’t even get to question 2 if the answer to question 1 is no. Why should Facebook be any different? If you enjoy Farmville, don’t you want to invite and play with other people who will enjoy it as much as you? I get invited to apps all the time, and not once have I had the impression that I was being invited because they thought I would enjoy the app. To be fair, it’s not entirely the person’s fault, because apps will sometimes force you to participate in activities that spam people or send out invites just to reach goals or plateaus. Even so, you can ALWAYS skip certain questions or decline to notify people. Take that time.

If you’re on the other end, being invited, block the app like I showed you. I’ve blocked and even unfriended people who do nothing but invite me to apps. After all, what are either of us getting out of the relationship?

I’ve made the same mistakes, and now I actually think about what I share and who I invite to things, and when I mistakenly invite or post to someone’s wall I’m horrified. I only ask that you think before you act.

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